“A man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.” American Novelist Mario Puzo once said
In Kalenjin community, besides showing that a man is capable, bride price acts as a gesture of groom’s willingness to marry the bride. It is also a dividend of parents’ effort on their daughter.
The Deputy President Dr. William Ruto being an accomplished family man and a night owl who slices his busy schedule to accommodate assignments from his boss, family, self-development, spiritual service, fellow leaders not to mention millions of citizens he meets in weekly countrywide development tours, he never missed an engagement ceremony of his younger brother.
As routine, he supports President Uhuru Kenyatta to effect Jubilee manifesto through launch of development projects, serve God by spending time with the clergy and building sanctuaries, lead his family, traverses the country to listen to the needs of electorate for apt actions while he builds own business realms to emerge top entrepreneur among the Kenyan politicians.
Dr. Ruto, the most feared and loved politician in the country, is the first-born son in the family of Mr. Daniel Cheruiyot (late) and Mama Sara Ruto Cheruiyot and in his community after the death of a father; the eldest son inevitably steps in to support the mom in family leadership.
According to our source, after he was informed by his younger brother David Ruto Samoei about a beautiful girl he had spotted in Segero village of Soy Constituency, and wanted to marry, the DP with the family did a background-check and discussed her suitability for marriage according to the clan.
Carol Kitur was scrutinized and passing the test, the two families agreed on an engagement (Koito) date and on the D-day, very early in the morning, picked his staff to lead his family to the bride’s home to officially meet them where they arrived before the cows went out to graze as per the custom of Kalenjin community.
Even while executing family duties, his political lieutenants among them Governor Jackson Mandago, the host MP Caleb Kositany, Oscar Sudi (Kapseret), Cornelly Serem, Gladys Shollei and many friends could not leave him go alone.
Since they had expressed their intention, on arrival, before anything else, together with a few family and clan members were invited into the reserved room for dowry negotiations and detailed introduction.
During the discussion bride’s family explains the struggle they have made in raising the bride while outlining the benefit the groom would get from marrying her hence demanding a lot of cows, goats and sheep while the groom’s argue on the value they are able to give.
In some instances, families fail to agree and the girl’s family kicks out the groom’s but David’s case was like a ride in the park because no family including Odingas would dare stop their daughter from marrying DP Ruto’s brother.
After the successful dowry negotiation, the representatives walked out to meet other guests for brief that included talks, taking mursik in calabash (sotet), songs and dances then exchanged presents as a sign of agreement and the onset of family ties.
“The way Ruto serves family, nation, party and church is exemplary. He is my role model and person I would always wish to learn the secrets of his success and how he does things that is why I could not afford to accompany him to Koito ceremony of his brother” a politician who accompanied him told The Rift News on phone
David is an established entrepreneur while Caron Kitur is an international media personality.
At the event, the DP urged Kenyans to value their family units, work hard to provide for their families and embrace available mechanisms of conflict resolutions.